Celebrating 10 years! 2007-2017

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>30 years old >t3 law school >got an oil job internshi daltestbank106/25/17
Welcome to sh*t law. Crack open a beer and laugh. Pop a benz vohod06/25/17
sounds terrible daltestbank106/25/17
Your post has been repeated tens of thousands of times among vohod06/26/17
Welcome of the fellowship of the miserable. One of us! One o lolasaurusrex06/26/17
Honestly go talk with a professional if you are feeling that lolasaurusrex06/26/17
Hello! I live in an 18 wheeler for a living! lucapacioli06/26/17
Sounds awful. At what point did your woman leave you or isthisit06/26/17
I think you need to reset your expectations, abandon your no mrtor06/26/17
I dont understand what it means when people say "you're not daltestbank106/26/17
Whose sock are you? isthisit06/26/17
Nah lil bro. Only a lyfe of debt. vohod06/26/17
Big picture: you made the mistake of going to a T3, and inst anothernjlawyer06/26/17
This won't be much help but at 30yo and 60k in debt... You a triplesix06/26/17
I swear it as Michael Moore and (COUGH, Snowden, Help!) is m magellan06/27/17
You are still young and it's still too early to be gloom and cranky06/27/17
daltestbank1 (Jun 25, 2017 - 10:27 pm)

>30 years old

>t3 law school

>got an oil job internship my first month of law school with a big company(landman)

>oil crashed and they laid everyone off, no-offered my second summer with a finance company

>had to take off a semester due to health reasons

>depression

>wife got a job 5 hours away from me so we could keep the lights on without more debt, alone

>added an additional MS to my degree to make myself marketable, it hasnt worked

>all my friends graduated in May, alone

>studied really hard last semester and did really well, hasnt helped in any way, more depressing because it just wasted time

>have 5 more classes left, painful to even open the books

>60k debt

>no hope

>spend hours alone in my apartment just staring at the wall

>i spend over an hour every morning convincing myself to go to class so i can at least finish the year and have a degree, but sometimes I dont even know what the point is

>think about how i worked so hard and it all went so wrong

> try to stay positive,hang a shingle, i cant even find the courthouse

>i see others successes that didnt go to law school, more depression

>delete social media so i dont see how well others are doing

>fall of the radar

>noone contacts me ever

>get invitation to 5 year class reunion, no way I can go, embarassed at how sad my life has become

>another friend landed a six figure job, awesome

>maybe i will be a writer

>noone buys books anymore

>look for doc review gigs, I just cant do it

>search craiglist for part time security guard jobs

>back to bed, its 3pm

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vohod (Jun 25, 2017 - 11:06 pm)

Welcome to sh*t law. Crack open a beer and laugh. Pop a benzo. Dread, despair, and depression are the three fatal Ds. Its all funny money. Be like Peter in Office Space.

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daltestbank1 (Jun 25, 2017 - 11:51 pm)

sounds terrible

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vohod (Jun 26, 2017 - 8:08 am)

Your post has been repeated tens of thousands of times amongst law grads in this generation. Many of us Poast to cope.

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lolasaurusrex (Jun 26, 2017 - 12:23 am)

Welcome of the fellowship of the miserable. One of us! One of us! One of us!

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lolasaurusrex (Jun 26, 2017 - 12:32 am)

Honestly go talk with a professional if you are feeling that down. You sound like you're a young guy. 60k in debt is nothing compared to what some folks have. Also good move deleting social media. Remember people on social media are only posting about the absolute best 5% of their lives. You're not seeing the usual stresses and otherwise lousy things people go through on a day to day basis. Life has its ups and downs but life can change for the better. Don't give up and get the help you need for your depression.

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lucapacioli (Jun 26, 2017 - 12:34 am)

Hello! I live in an 18 wheeler for a living!

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isthisit (Jun 26, 2017 - 8:00 am)

Sounds awful.

At what point did your woman leave you or do you have an arrangement in that she can have a side piece? 5 hours from home for work can't be easy in her.

And why can't you do doc review? Your unemployable already so doc review (e-discovery) won't kill your career.

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mrtor (Jun 26, 2017 - 9:31 am)

I think you need to reset your expectations, abandon your notions of entitlement, and let go of your jealousy and envy of others. You seem to have been of the mindset that law school was your golden ticket to fame, fortune, and success..

It's not. And never has been.

You're still in school, you're young, and you have very little debt (relatively). If you have not been clerking for law firms throughout law school (or some other equivalent experiential learning), you need to start applying now. Academics are for academics. And they're virtually irrelevant at a T3. You need real world experience if you're going to successfully market yourself. Get on it. Now.

You also need to be willing to take what you can get. A lot of law grad failures thought they were too good for the jobs they were initially offered out of school. They chose unemployment over an entry level job hoping something better would come through. The longer you are out of work the bigger the hill you will have to climb to get back in the game -- if you ever do. Take the job, get experience, and climb the ranks. Just because you start out in a small firm earning middling wages doesn't mean you're stuck there forever. The lateral market is very healthy. As soon as you get 1-2 years of experience, doors will open. Better practices, higher pay, etc.

Consider consulting a doc. You sound like you have a major depressive condition which may require medication or counseling to correct. Depression isn't a joke. It can cause serious issues with your work and your relationships. You need to seek help before you start your job search. Untreated depression could hold you back from great opportunities.

You should also examine your spousal relationship. Taking a job five hours away just to avoid some debt sounds suspect. Toxic relationships can harm your mental health and could have a major impact on your ability to focus on getting a job. I think she needs to come back or GTFO.

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daltestbank1 (Jun 26, 2017 - 4:37 pm)

I dont understand what it means when people say "you're not entitled to a job". Wtf was the point of law school than? Doesent that entitle you to a career in law?

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isthisit (Jun 26, 2017 - 4:45 pm)

Whose sock are you?

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vohod (Jun 26, 2017 - 4:46 pm)

Nah lil bro. Only a lyfe of debt.

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anothernjlawyer (Jun 26, 2017 - 5:12 pm)

Big picture: you made the mistake of going to a T3, and instead of walking away with 200K or so in life-crippling debt, you've got a very manageable 60K. This is like walking away from a car accident: the accident sucks, but it could be a lot worse.

See a mental health professional. Grind out the last five classes. Things will be better.

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triplesix (Jun 26, 2017 - 5:44 pm)

This won't be much help but at 30yo and 60k in debt... You are not even in that bad of situation. Your debt is payable on most incomes, your life will just suck. But there are many people on here who paid bigger amount on document review so there is not much pity to go around.

You need to regroup, your life won't be easy but unlike someone with 200k, you can get your freedom back by 40 at the latest but you got to start planning yesterday.

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magellan (Jun 27, 2017 - 11:11 am)

I swear it as Michael Moore and (COUGH, Snowden, Help!) is my witness:

Oh ehlo? Throughout my life, I have been unlawfully accosted by probing cops. Once, only reason I walked was fear, stuttering my innocence, and nervously showing my LS ring...to uh...get a break, Mr. Ossifer? It worked! I hate me so much. Mel Gibson was right! Soon, I'll be listening to Earth, Wind & Fire eating saltines and drinking Chinese carp water by my lake, courtesy of my HOA. I owe them money, too!

Thanks for teaching me how to right America!

Bye folks.

11111111111111111

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cranky (Jun 27, 2017 - 2:42 pm)

You are still young and it's still too early to be gloom and doom. Is the career services office of any help? You can't fall off the face of the working world because you are more likely to find work through personal connections. Get back on LinkedIn and try to contact alumni. Doc review isn't the ideal job but if that's all you can get, do it instead of merely being unemployed. What's the master's degree in? You have to at least put on a confident cheerful demeanor in hopes of landing a job. Best of luck to you.

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