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Graduated some years ago. Grades were not great, but had de thelegalwhore02/23/18
Why do you derive so much of your self-worth from your job? 2breedbares02/23/18
20 years out. Never made more than $95,000. I stopped caring khazaddum02/23/18
More power to you, brother. I am slowly coming around to you guyingorillasuit02/23/18
Get over it. You are not your job. Most people would love clocker102/23/18
Whose sock are you? isthisit02/23/18
I find my job interesting and the freedom I have is great. B thirdtierlaw02/23/18
Why are you upset? You have it OK. If you don't like y patenttrollnj02/23/18
Your current job is probably my dream job. You could still g fettywap02/23/18
I am always amazed at the insight and supportive comments he dilemma201802/23/18
thelegalwhore (Feb 23, 2018 - 1:07 am)

Graduated some years ago. Grades were not great, but had decent internships (bank, fed district) and thought I’d be an okay lawyer. Never practiced. Passed the bar but went into a JD desired role that ended up being non-legal. I work hard and after two years make low six figures but the work is boring, unfulfilling and unfit for an attorney. Feel depressed and like I am being punished.

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2breedbares (Feb 23, 2018 - 1:27 am)

Why do you derive so much of your self-worth from your job? It's just one aspect of your life and doesn't even have to be part of your identity. Does the work consume a lot of your time? How did you come into this job?

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khazaddum (Feb 23, 2018 - 1:40 am)

20 years out. Never made more than $95,000. I stopped caring about career progression 7 years ago. I am a lot more relaxed.

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guyingorillasuit (Feb 23, 2018 - 2:15 am)

More power to you, brother. I am slowly coming around to your attitude. Power comes from within. We find peace and acceptance on our own individual timelines.

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clocker1 (Feb 23, 2018 - 1:42 am)

Get over it. You are not your job. Most people would love to do what you do.

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isthisit (Feb 23, 2018 - 2:09 am)

Whose sock are you?

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thirdtierlaw (Feb 23, 2018 - 6:35 am)

I find my job interesting and the freedom I have is great. But if someone offered me a set 40-45hr/week job and low six figures, I'd jump ship almost immediately. So be grateful for what you have. "Being a lawyer" isn't all it is cracked up to be.

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patenttrollnj (Feb 23, 2018 - 11:35 am)

Why are you upset? You have it OK.

If you don't like your job/career path, consider going back to school and become something else.

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fettywap (Feb 23, 2018 - 11:42 am)

Your current job is probably my dream job. You could still get a lawyer job if you wanted to take a pay cut and work more hours with more stress. Why would you want to do that? You're very lucky with what you have.

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dilemma2018 (Feb 23, 2018 - 6:15 pm)

I am always amazed at the insight and supportive comments here on JDU--seriously helps put things into perspective or provides a different viewpoint.

Your posting timing is very interesting because I have literally had conversations with colleagues who have swung by my office this week to discuss this very thing. Job satisfaction is so challenging in law (or any career) for that matter. I think so many people become "X" thinking its going to be a fantasy gig--however, what I have learned from talking to people and also reading the posts on here, there are private attorneys making $$$ that are miserable and wish they had a government gig, then govt attorneys wishing they had a private gig so you, my friend, are not alone--
What I told my friend/colleagues is that you have to start with exactly where you are professionally and personally:

1) What is it about your career/position that you find unfulfilling? Is it possible there is another position within your org. that you could transfer into even if it means a slight pay cut but you would find happier?

2) Is your dissatisfaction just confined to career or is it from other areas (that maybe affecting your career feeling?

3) If you are unhappy with law or law-related positions, it is certainly not unheard of to pursue a different pathway--a J.D. plus some real experience is a great platform in which to pursue something else. A lot of the posters on here make having a JD the kiss of death for some reason--hardly. A post JD career is first about deciding what exactly you would like to be doing during the day--it may involve more education/maybe not. I don't like the idea of change for change sake, but if there is something specific you want to change, a solid course and plan is essential.

I definitely agree though that overall, you are in a far better place than a lot (if not most) people--that alone does not mean happiness but definitely is something to keep in mind while you plan your next steps!

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