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Anybody felt depressed after law school graduation? It’s l boredgirl106/09/18
Post-Traumatic Stress Syndrome. I worked with a guy who ree heythere06/15/18
everything in the rear view mirror is missed to a certain ex pisces21306/09/18
That's how I felt after graduating college and then law scho isthisit06/09/18
Just keep swimming. esquirewalletsmatter06/09/18
Exactly brother. Push the blues away with meaningful work (I isthisit06/09/18
Can't say that I can relate. I was so desperate to get away cacrimdefense06/09/18
I also hated so many things about it too and of course the w boredgirl106/12/18
I also think I regret not waiting to take the bar. I'm study boredgirl106/12/18
If it makes you feel any better, my self-imposed delay cost cacrimdefense06/13/18
No, I hated law school even though I graduated with a Biglaw irishlaw06/09/18
This. My eyes really opened up once I figured out that palmtree1906/10/18
I don't miss law school. I much prefer the real world and jmoney06/09/18
Assuming this is not a flame.... There are a lot of react anothernjlawyer06/10/18
Over 9000 response. If the last thing you did was the bes jmoney06/10/18
you are a dark person. actually not everything is about mone boredgirl106/12/18
You're depressed because reality has finally hit. Three yea hairypalms06/10/18
not about the money. boredgirl106/12/18
This is a real dark site. I can't believe most people assume boredgirl106/12/18
Why I would miss getting robbed? irishlaw06/12/18
I enjoy living life and the fruits of my labour. Why would esquirewalletsmatter06/13/18
OP - I miss law school in the sense that I didn't have to wa jd4hire06/13/18
Agree with you monroeroeroe06/13/18
I was somewhat depressed after law school as well. I missed dahlia06/13/18
It is depressing alright, because the real world is staring somefed06/13/18
Depressing indeed. 8 years of college and a year of experien sobeitunion06/13/18
I felt the same way when I graduated. I felt even worse/ mor mcacollector06/13/18
I feel you! I’m constantly nostalgic for law school and un lawjesus06/14/18
I would not call it depression, but nostalgia. The experienc ternarydaemon06/17/18
I suspect that you're not depressed about law school; you ar dandydan06/18/18
I hated law scam and the white folks and jews who ran it and jbthealmightyprophet06/19/18

boredgirl1 (Jun 9, 2018 - 3:41 am)

Anybody felt depressed after law school graduation? It’s like I hated so many things about law school, but now I feel I will miss it. I’m so depressed. I don’t know why I have this emptiness.

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heythere (Jun 15, 2018 - 7:49 am)

Post-Traumatic Stress Syndrome. I worked with a guy who reenlisted to go back to combat even though he hated it while in. His brain was wired to crave the stress and the supposed outcome.

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pisces213 (Jun 9, 2018 - 7:11 am)

everything in the rear view mirror is missed to a certain extent since you were younger then. If you accomplished something, including graduating after putting hard work, a bit more so.

As for dealing with it... bar prep with good friends will fix it.

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isthisit (Jun 9, 2018 - 8:48 am)

That's how I felt after graduating college and then law school.

You just need to keep it moving. Find other things you love and excel in those areas.

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esquirewalletsmatter (Jun 9, 2018 - 9:15 am)

Just keep swimming.

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isthisit (Jun 9, 2018 - 3:57 pm)

Exactly brother. Push the blues away with meaningful work (I don't mean 9-5 work) and relationships.

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cacrimdefense (Jun 9, 2018 - 2:50 pm)

Can't say that I can relate. I was so desperate to get away from law school that I didn't take the bar exam until I had been out for 5 years.

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boredgirl1 (Jun 12, 2018 - 10:16 pm)

I also hated so many things about it too and of course the work. I am shocked at this nostalgia I feel now. I guess I just liked being on campus. I enjoyed going to many of the cafes and restaurants, as my law school was attached to a larger university with a scenic nature atmosphere. I miss walking around during breaks.

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boredgirl1 (Jun 12, 2018 - 10:20 pm)

I also think I regret not waiting to take the bar. I'm studying for it now. The material is sometimes so boring, although at other times relaxing. Maybe the occasional boredom could be why I feel the way I do. Maybe I just imagined doing something exciting after graduation, but now I am just stuck studying...

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cacrimdefense (Jun 13, 2018 - 10:54 am)

If it makes you feel any better, my self-imposed delay cost me an add'l two bouts with the CBE. On both the first and second occasions when I took the test, I missed passing by fewer than 30 points (on a scale where a passing score was roughly 1350 points out of 1900 or 2000 possible). Because I was so close the first two times, I have become convinced that I'd have passed the first, or certainly the second time, had I simply behaved like a normal f---in' person and just sat for it the summer after I graduated when everything was still "fresh" in my head.

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irishlaw (Jun 9, 2018 - 7:48 pm)

No, I hated law school even though I graduated with a Biglaw job. By the time 2L hit I knew I was being scammed. I was paying $50,000 a year for a professor to lecture off an outline for three hours a week and then spend the rest of their time in their office in gym clothing eating cupcakes. If a professor was deep into writing a non-peer reviewed article they could take a semester or even a year off. The "worst" thing that could happen to a professor at my law school was to be on the 1L rotation and teach a 3 day a week class.

I could have passed the bar after 1L year, 2L and 3L should be optional or tuition dropped for being unconscienable.

I remember during my Barbri prep I was watching a lecture on contracts and the professor made a "joke" about how after the bar you'll have to apply to FedEx because you couldn't secure a law job. As previously mentioned I was lucky to have a job, but everyone in the academy is in on the scam and frankly don't care.

Other law students. I didn't like most but I had a group of friends and that was enough for me. But you could feel the "depression" when someone said they didn't have a job mid way through 3L year and that always made me feel very uncomfortable.

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palmtree19 (Jun 10, 2018 - 4:43 pm)

This.

My eyes really opened up once I figured out that ~150 pages of a hornbook was being stretched out into full semester classes taught by people who often had no practical experience and had zero real-world career-specific wisdom to give anyone.

From my experience, the rich kids in law school knew it was a scam but didn't mind all that much because we had exit options and didn't have to worry about debt. Being in a college town for 3 years and not working was definitely the draw for most of us. We would also talk about how we (the rich kids) couldn't believe how reckless everyone else seemed to be with their money & career prospects. Willingly shelling out $150k @ 7% to over-learn simple material taught in the most convoluted way possible for three years isn't optimal for most people.

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jmoney (Jun 9, 2018 - 10:41 pm)

I don't miss law school.

I much prefer the real world and doing work that actually changes some fact about the world.

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anothernjlawyer (Jun 10, 2018 - 12:11 am)

Assuming this is not a flame....

There are a lot of reactions that people can have when they graduate from law school. Pride, anticipation, exhaustion, stress, accomplishment, frustration (if they don't have a good job lined up), shock (at the fact that they don't have a good job lined up), etc...

If your reaction is "so depressed" and "emptiness," you need to see a mental health professional.

Go talk to your doctor, boredgirl1. Tell him/her how you feel, and be open to getting some help.

Good luck.

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jmoney (Jun 10, 2018 - 2:46 am)

Over 9000 response.

If the last thing you did was the best thing you did, you're not doing it right.

Attitude is most of the game.

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boredgirl1 (Jun 12, 2018 - 10:11 pm)

you are a dark person. actually not everything is about money. i feel i will miss the environment even though i was not particularly close with any of my classmates.

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hairypalms (Jun 10, 2018 - 10:40 pm)

You're depressed because reality has finally hit. Three years of kicking the can without having to worry about finding a job has reached its conclusion, only now you're likely in much more debt. I would be depressed too if I was graduating law school at this time.

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boredgirl1 (Jun 12, 2018 - 10:11 pm)

not about the money.

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boredgirl1 (Jun 12, 2018 - 10:13 pm)

This is a real dark site. I can't believe most people assume everything has to do with jobs or money. Didn't anybody just miss being in the law school environment? My law school was attached to a larger university. I will definitely miss being on campus. Observing the undergrad feel too. Going to cafes in between my breaks. Sitting by the fireplace in the cafe.

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irishlaw (Jun 12, 2018 - 11:44 pm)

Why I would miss getting robbed?

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esquirewalletsmatter (Jun 13, 2018 - 10:26 am)

I enjoy living life and the fruits of my labour. Why would I want to go back to college/law school bubble? Life is change and the machine does not stop. Can only go forward, never backwards. The BAR will keep you busy. Have fun.

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jd4hire (Jun 13, 2018 - 9:20 am)

OP - I miss law school in the sense that I didn't have to wake up and go to a job at 8:00 and get home at 7:00. My LS was attached to a larger university and I enjoyed walking amongst the young and beautiful. My house was down the street and I could take my motorcycle back and forth and had a lot more free time to do random tasks (especially those necessary to live which inevitably require time out of a workday which is now hard to accommodate, i.e. medical visits, banking, car services, etc.).

Notwithstanding the fact that I also miss law school to a tiny degree (I miss undergrad and the drunken debauchery exponentially more or high school and being stoned 24/7), the time has come where you must move on. If you are struggling, go seek professional help. At the same time, it's a little soft to be complaining about cafes or sitting by a fireplace. You went to and graduated from law school. It's now time to take the bar and get a job (or you could keep getting that loan money and become a professional student for life).

Serious though, if you are struggling, go seek professional help. If just bored, suck it up and put your head down.

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monroeroeroe (Jun 13, 2018 - 10:30 am)

Agree with you

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dahlia (Jun 13, 2018 - 9:44 am)

I was somewhat depressed after law school as well. I missed having a bunch of other people my age around to hang out with whenever. I missed the university and the lifestyle. The fact that the rest of my life was going to be getting up and going to work every morning was depressing. You know it on some level but the reality of it kind of sucks. It didn't help that my job was in a city where I didn't know anyone and I struggled to meet people with which I had anything in common. Some days I really struggled with not falling into a pit of depression. I eventually moved and made some friends but it is never the same as the friendships from college. Sooner or later you just adjust to your new reality. Life is never going to be like it was in your early 20s but some parts of it are actually better. Hang in there.

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somefed (Jun 13, 2018 - 10:36 am)

It is depressing alright, because the real world is staring you in the face.

It is also intimidating because you are suddenly expected to pass the bar and start doing real legal work. Most law grads feel some degree of apprehension because they are entering a new phase in life where the fun student times are in the past. It is part of the growing up process from law student to lawyer.

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sobeitunion (Jun 13, 2018 - 11:33 am)

Depressing indeed. 8 years of college and a year of experience for $35-45K (and uncapped earning potential).

https://www.indeed.com/m/viewjob?jk=c0b77806e6a0e753&from=ja&alid=59c65108e4b0286edb5d4b24&utm_source=jobseeker_emails&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=job_alerts&rgtk=1cfsh9m1v2tub8bv

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mcacollector (Jun 13, 2018 - 3:25 pm)

I felt the same way when I graduated. I felt even worse/ more nostalgic after I took the bar because for the first time in my entire life, I wasn't working toward any concrete goal. I was just applying for jobs every single day. I'm 5 years out and I still miss the law school days, even though I have formed new goals (and continue to crush them). It gets better, but every time I get together with my law school friends, we always become super nostalgic. It is kind of like having gone through a war, you never truly get over it.

Just focus on what is ahead and find ways to challenge yourself through the bar/job search. Best of luck!

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lawjesus (Jun 14, 2018 - 2:53 pm)

I feel you! I’m constantly nostalgic for law school and undergrad! I’d recommend getting involved with alumni activities, mentoring, maybe even taking an adult course on campus down the road.

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ternarydaemon (Jun 17, 2018 - 7:16 pm)

I would not call it depression, but nostalgia. The experiences that many posters have mentioned are commonly called the quarter-crisis syndrome. Yes, the job market sucks, and even the good paid law jobs suck too.

Yes, of course it is great to be on a university campus, partying (or, in the case of many law students, looking how other people party). Overall, such lifeless is unproductive by nature, and can only be sustained by the state (via student loans), or by your family's money.

I had a very similar experience, and I can just tell you that it goes away as you mature, usually when reaching 28 years for women, and 31 for men. There is a world out there, with lots of opportunities for the bold and intelligent. Yes, there are many, many ways to be happy than being a professional or working for a company, and there are many, many ways to make money that are much more efficient, faster and lucrative than studying most courses. You are not a unique snowflake, and this status quo is that of a global generation, so plan accordingly, and be ready to enjoy your 30s, which, in hindsight, can be much more enjoyable than your 20s. If your 20s result to be the pinnacle of your life, then I can only say that you are loser, a lemming ready to be used and discarded by the system in your 40s.

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dandydan (Jun 18, 2018 - 4:02 pm)

I suspect that you're not depressed about law school; you are fearful of facing the real world. While you were in college and law school, you were in a bubble. You knew the rules and the repercussions. Now, however, you are unsure of the rules and know that that a misstep can harpoon your career. You now realize that this academic knowledge is not that useful. College and Law School had hornbooks to guide you through it; real life does not.

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jbthealmightyprophet (Jun 19, 2018 - 9:04 pm)

I hated law scam and the white folks and jews who ran it and were in it. I rarely ever reminisce about it save for my hot law scam ex. I still pay a heavy price for having attended law scam to this very moment. Don't go to law scam. God bless! Yours truly, the Greatest Poster Known ("GPK").

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